Psychology defines toxic masculinity as traditional cultural masculine norms that can be harmful to men, women, and society overall; this concept of toxic masculinity is not intended to demonize men or male attributes, but rather to emphasize the harmful effects of conformity to certain traditional masculine ideal behaviors such as dominance, self reliance, and competition. … Continue reading Toxic Masculinity
World Aids Day
When I was a young gay kid, before I came out and understood what I was, I hadn't had much connection with a LGBTQ community. Keep in mind that when I was a child that was late 1970s through the 1980s. The only LGBTQ people that I even knew were two women who lived … Continue reading World Aids Day
Thanksgiving?
The holiday season is upon us and for me one of my more favorites of them is Thanksgiving. That being said, in a moment we will also discuss why I very much dislike this holiday. This is the one holiday where friends and family come together to share a meal. A time to take stock … Continue reading Thanksgiving?
Decking the Halls for Mental Health
As LGBTQ people, we usually end up picking our own family as we move through our lives. I have said it before, that was the single best lesson I was taught by my first boyfriend and I still carry it with me today. Each of us come from places where we may not have the … Continue reading Decking the Halls for Mental Health
Where Are Your Role Models?
Its hard growing up queer, truly it is. We look at our straight counterparts who have a multitude of icons to look up to, but for us our icons and heroes hardly make it to any spotlight. We must dig though queer histories and do research to even begin to see there are more of … Continue reading Where Are Your Role Models?
The Opposite Side of Coming Out
In honor of October being National LGBTQ History month, I feel it is important to talk about coming out. October 11th is National Coming Out Day, so this should be a time of reflection to those who wish they could come out and cannot find the means to do so. It should be a time … Continue reading The Opposite Side of Coming Out
Sexual Orientation: Myth vs. Facts
In honor of it being National LGBTQ History Month I thought I would dedicate my blog to sharing coming out stories, facts and or questions about coming out, LGBTQ history tidbits, and things that are important but feel good at the same time. So, sit back, read, and as always let me know what you … Continue reading Sexual Orientation: Myth vs. Facts
Personal Healing.
How do the following statements make you feel? You are pleased with a colleague tell you they had no idea you were gay. Your father praises you for having straight friends as well as gay friends, and you feel great he said that. You think, for a moment, that its okay for a store to … Continue reading Personal Healing.
Intimacy And Sex
This article is dedicated to someone who has helped me understand myself and what I want out of life. That has given me the ability to understand closeness and a bond in ways I had not seen before. You have slowly started to bring out the best in me and for that I cannot thank … Continue reading Intimacy And Sex
You’re not our kind…
It seems almost daily we are surrounded by some form of prejudice, from almost every direction. As a gay man, I have pretty much come to expect that heterosexual culture will have some issue with LGBTQ people. The government shows it daily and we see the general public thinking it’s okay to be more boisterous … Continue reading You’re not our kind…