As we near Valentine’s Day we see a sudden urgency to find someone to spend it with. It becomes like a need to be in a relationship. It’s all we think about and think we need. In this mindset we often sacrifice the greatest relationship that we can have, the one with ourselves. We have … Continue reading The Most Important Relationship
Safety and Dating Apps
As technology has changed and become more portable, our interactions with people have also changed. We spend more time looking down at our phone than paying attention to where we are walking. We talk to people online more than we do face to face, leaving verbal communication painfully awkward at times. Gone are the days … Continue reading Safety and Dating Apps
Toxic Masculinity in Action
We know that bigotry exists, we see it every day. Sometimes, we forget how far people will go with their judgments. We forget all the people that can be affected just because someone has a dislike for another person. I was reminded of the far-reaching scope of hatred recently, when two of my friends came … Continue reading Toxic Masculinity in Action
Toxic Masculinity
Psychology defines toxic masculinity as traditional cultural masculine norms that can be harmful to men, women, and society overall; this concept of toxic masculinity is not intended to demonize men or male attributes, but rather to emphasize the harmful effects of conformity to certain traditional masculine ideal behaviors such as dominance, self reliance, and competition. … Continue reading Toxic Masculinity
World Aids Day
When I was a young gay kid, before I came out and understood what I was, I hadn't had much connection with a LGBTQ community. Keep in mind that when I was a child that was late 1970s through the 1980s. The only LGBTQ people that I even knew were two women who lived … Continue reading World Aids Day
Decking the Halls for Mental Health
As LGBTQ people, we usually end up picking our own family as we move through our lives. I have said it before, that was the single best lesson I was taught by my first boyfriend and I still carry it with me today. Each of us come from places where we may not have the … Continue reading Decking the Halls for Mental Health
The Opposite Side of Coming Out
In honor of October being National LGBTQ History month, I feel it is important to talk about coming out. October 11th is National Coming Out Day, so this should be a time of reflection to those who wish they could come out and cannot find the means to do so. It should be a time … Continue reading The Opposite Side of Coming Out
Sexual Orientation: Myth vs. Facts
In honor of it being National LGBTQ History Month I thought I would dedicate my blog to sharing coming out stories, facts and or questions about coming out, LGBTQ history tidbits, and things that are important but feel good at the same time. So, sit back, read, and as always let me know what you … Continue reading Sexual Orientation: Myth vs. Facts
Personal Healing.
How do the following statements make you feel? You are pleased with a colleague tell you they had no idea you were gay. Your father praises you for having straight friends as well as gay friends, and you feel great he said that. You think, for a moment, that its okay for a store to … Continue reading Personal Healing.
Intimacy And Sex
This article is dedicated to someone who has helped me understand myself and what I want out of life. That has given me the ability to understand closeness and a bond in ways I had not seen before. You have slowly started to bring out the best in me and for that I cannot thank … Continue reading Intimacy And Sex
Gay in the CLE 