Nature vs. Nurture

I sit here writing in January of 2021 and some part of me is still surprised that the nature vs nuture debate for LGBTQ people still exists. If you are familiar, it basically states that  being LGBTQ comes down to being born that way or a product of how/where you are brought up. This isn’t [...]

The Spirit of Christmas Past

Dating someone who is super into Christmas is hard when you, yourself, are not. In fact, many people roll their eyes at you when you tell them that you just aren't that into the holiday.  I have been called the Grinch or Scrooge so many times that it only further separates my feelings for it. [...]

LGBTQ Blamed For Covid-19

I realize that it shouldn’t shock me that LGBTQ people are blamed for things that happen on the daily. After all, Pat Robertson has said that hurricanes are God’s way of trying to punish us. Weird belief when it seems to impact so many more than just LGBTQ people. As this pandemic seems to be [...]

Truth About Body Image

If you have read my blog before, you know I try very hard to be body positive and sex positive. I believe that is how we, as humans, should interact with our world. To not be ashamed of the things that all people do or have. Every body is beautiful in it's own right. Every [...]

What Is The Definition of Beauty

When we think about the kind of men we're attracted to people like Chris Hemsworth, Idras Alba, or Henry Cavill come to mind. Rock hard abs, sculpted bodies with zero percent body fat, perfect teeth, and impeccable looks. From our youth, we're bombarded with what's considered beauty. Our minds are shaped by images in magazines, [...]

Mask of Masculinity

As children, we are set upon a path to adulthood. Boys are taught to become men and girls are taught to become women. We are told these are immutable characteristics, it is what is expected of us. This is the normal way of things. Men are taught to hide their emotions away from the world, [...]

The Fallacy of Normality

Adjectives are a common part of our daily lives. They surround us in literature, movies, and chats with friends. We see beautiful scenery, couples that share endearing love with one another, and delectable food. One could argue that adjectives are overused or thrown about carelessly. That people may even use them when there are better [...]

The Process of Fitting In.

Each one of us, who stand out, have heard it time and again, in one form or fashion. "Why don't you just try to fit in? It would be so much easier." It's like we, ourselves, have never come to this conclusion. Sometimes our differences are so obvious that we cannot just fit in. Other [...]

JK Rowling And The Disparities in Potterdom

I came into Harry Potter in about 2010 or so, late to the party as usual. It was still a book series that had a huge impact on me. JK Rowling created an environment where I felt accepted, not just because I was LGBTQ but also because I am pagan. I was resistant to the [...]