Often overlooked in our LGBTQ community is the Transgender community. In this administration where much of the legislation being changed, seems to have a direct correlation to Transgender rights, I feel it is important to be able to share some of their stories. It is time for us all to set our differences and beliefs aside. We must unite and fight this administration before it removes any more from us and we lose all the progressions we have made. We have already seen the Trans ban that has been passed by this administration, we cannot rest until every right being taken away from us is returned. That requires us coming together as one community, no matter our points of view. Each of us live our lives on our own means. We are forced to make a living and must, in doing so, be ready to fight how it best serves our greatest good, do not judge someone by their words as much as their deeds or actions. Remember that I share stories of our community and how we/they live in it. Names are only changed when asked to do so, words are only changed for spelling or ease of flow. So, join with me as I share their stories and let’s celebrate their fight and stand with them. Be supportive, without judgement.
I would like to introduce you to Arianna Jade, a 28-year-old transwoman who lives in the Cleveland area. She is an unabashed and unapologetic voice for trans people to their lives on their own terms. She is as comfortable with who she is personally as she is in her porn career. Arianna doesn’t live by the definitions of others, whether it be her personal life or her professional career. To use a quote from one of her social media pages “Accept no one’s definition of your life but define yourself.”
Tell me about yourself. Name, age, where you live, and what you do.
My name is Arianna Jade Devor I’m 28 I live in Cleveland Ohio from Miami FL and I am a Veteran of the Air Force and I model. I am also a transgender pornstar. You can find me on Instagram at itsariejade, Facebook, and if you like, on my PornHub channel.
What does transgender mean to you?
To me, transgender means defying the “normal” gender roles and expressing yourself how you truly feel inside your heart, mind, and soul. Being your true authentic self despite the hate and prejudice you will face for this choice. Keeping true to yourself and most of all having an enviable courage and strength for doing so.
What are some common misconceptions you face about Transgender men and women?
That trans women are gay and trans men are lesbian, that those who judge us think we are all weird or have something wrong with us.
How should someone ask a Transgender person which pronouns they prefer?
I like them asking me, directly, what pronouns I prefer.
Do people ask you if you have had any surgeries and how does that make you feel?
Yes, and I, personally, am comfortable with it. I have answered many questions to inform people about my breast augmentation procedure, to a whole spectrum of people.
What are things that we should avoid doing with Transgender person?
Just be considerate and sensitive to how they feel. Everyone’s comfort level is different, and boundaries should be respected.
What has been the hardest part of your transition so far?
Realizing I don’t needs another people’s acceptance, if I am to accept and love myself. To be transparently honest about me.
Tell me about your normal day? – being a parent of a Transgender child/ Transgender person-
I get up. Walk the dog, do my makeup, pick out my outfit. You know the same things everyone else does.
I am a cisgender Gay male, and always want to know how to be a better ally for trans*individuals. What are some things I can do to aid in trans* visibility and helping to create a safe environment, based on your personal experience?
Talk to us, call the representative of the Trans Community at your local LGBT Center, and get active in our community. We have tons of cool events and social informational groups to offer.
How can people best support Transgender children?Let them make choices for themselves without judgement
Do people question your sexuality when you tell them you are Transgender?Most assume, as a trans female, I only like men. In reality I’m a pansexual, I don’t limit my choices to biological sex, gender, or gender identity.
In a couple of your vids you have the label she-male or tranny, why do you choose that as a label?
I got into porn, with a gay porn company, after I left the military in 2014 and I also escorted on the side. I am passionate about my career in porn, even more so I’m now comfortable with my body. I choose labels for my videos based on popular tags used in transgender porn searches or that is part of a role play being acted out. And hey, check out my PornHub channel.
With stars like Scarlett Johansson being offered a role as a Trans man in Rub & Tug, what are some common misconceptions about Transgender people portrayed in Hollywood?
Oh, this is a triggering question as the way Hollywood portrays most trans surpasses offensive and goes straight to derogatory and demeaning,
What gives you strength day to day?Knowing how far I have come in my short 2-year journey, living as my true self
Can you describe for me why it is important that our laws and people treat each other equally?
Because no one ever got anywhere being mean to someone look at history it proves peace prevails and we are stronger united as one.
There is no one way to live our lives. To say that how one person chooses to be is wrong and is no different than those passing laws that affect us daily. You may not agree with word choices that others use to survive, but it is a means of raging against the very system that forces us into little boxes. Arianna lives her life with the strength and conviction of a fighter, making her own choices. She doesn’t ask for approval, only the breadth to be able to make them for herself. It is a lesson we can take from her, no matter our view points. Arianna shares qualities of some of our early pioneers; the ability to walk their lives without fear of acceptance of others and to blaze their own trail because it is the only way forward. Even Marsha P. Johnson did not start out to be a fighter or leader, her life wasn’t a golden image of who a trans person should be. She simply lived. We can ask no less of our fellow brothers and sisters.